Aug 31, 20232 min read

5 Valuable lessons from a Trauma-Survivor

When you are in a situation where you cannot escape from, you will do anything to survive, and guilt will be part of the process. Please remember that nothing of that defines who you truly are. Anything you did while being in survival mode it’s not your fault and it is not a life sentence. You can always rewrite your story and your current situation in life.
Many of the things you might have done, said or chose most probably aren’t things you feel proud of, but maybe they kept you safe from the worse. Nothing of that can shape your future and it doesn’t mean you cannot trust yourself now. You can re-choose by understanding and forgiving that past version of you.
If you endured trauma from abusive relationships, that doesn’t mean you can’t thrive now and live a happy and healthy life while creating loving and long-lasting relationships. You can set your boundaries, close relationships and distant yourself from people who cannot receive you. You have the responsibility towards yourself to provide to yourself what was not given to you before.
You can choose to heal, knowing that you deserve a better life without hating yourself or feeling shame for that version of you that brought you where you are today. You can do that through self-compassion and curiosity to discover yourself and meet yourself where you are every single moment along the journey, while re-choosing again and again where you deserve to be.
Healing is possible, as long as you trust the process and as long as you become diligent in your determination to stay focused and connected with yourself, your body and your vision about the present and future. There will be moments of grief and sadness, but as soon as you learn to flow with them and feel them instead of resisting them and get stuck with them, they will no longer define you.