20 behaviors of the masculine that can wound the feminine

In a romantic relationship the man is the representation of the masculine energy and the woman is the representation of the feminine energy. This dynamic can also exist between a queer couple, where one of them or both express masculine and feminine traits.

The woman or the person who is mainly expressing the feminine aspects in the relationship, needs to experience or be provided with specific elements from her environment in order to be able to be fully in her feminine energy and in order to maintain that energy while being around and with the man or the person who expresses the masculine aspects in the relationship.

In this article I will describe 20 behaviors that when expressed from a man or the person who represents mainly the masculine energy in the relationship can cause imbalances to the woman or the person who is mainly in their feminine energy, and therefore causes them to shut off their feminine energy or it forces them to act more from their masculine self in order to survive in the relationship.

For the sake of this article I will refer to the words “man” and “him” in order to explain the attributes of the person who mainly expresses the masculine energy within a relationship and I will use the words “woman” and “her” in order to refer to the feminine energy in a person. The words “man” and him” as well as the words “woman” and “her” are not limiting or excluding any other binary forms of expression or sexuality and they are used to simplify the text. Please feel free to interpret the meaning in the way it suits you in terms of masculine and feminine traits.

So here are 20 behaviors of the masculine that can wound the feminine:

1. When being unreliable: A man who consistently fails to follow through on his word will cause her or the other person to not trust the ownership of her word and the result will be to do it all by herself.

2. When being emotionally unavailable: A man who is being dismissive, avoidant or unable to create a loving space for her emotions, this will cause her to shut down her feminine energy and close off her heart.

3. When disregarding her physical safety: The way a man drives, walk on the sidewalk next to her, locking the house, checking to see if she got home or not, checking on her when she is sick, caring for her self-care and rest can make her feel safe or unsafe with him.

4. When not taking initiative: A man who relies on his partner to make all decisions, plans, or initiate important conversations will cause the woman to fall into a mother role who is leading a man-child.

5. When being emotionally volatile: A man who is emotionally volatile creates unsafely in her body while causing her to shut off her feminine energy and withdraw her expression and authenticity as a self-protective mechanism.

6. When being indecisive: A man who cannot take decisions, constantly changes his mind and doesn’t show preference in the day-to-day life decisions, even when he is asked, this can make the woman take the lead and therefore be more in her masculine energy.

7. When trying to fix her: A man who jumps into fixing her problems and emotions without holding space for her emotions to be expressed first, may have her feel invalidated and create emotional shutdown.

8. When not helping her: A man who does not help his partner, especially when she feels overwhelmed, this can create distrust around his leadership and reliability to offer support and take charge when needed.

9. When being inconsistent: A man who is not giving love, affection and care in a consistent manner, this can make her feel emotionally unsafe, leading her to protect herself from potential hurt by putting up barriers around her heart.

10. When shaming her: A man who uses her insecurities against her can make her withdraw emotionally and shut off the radiance that initially attracted him.

11. When engaging in seductive content: A man who follows, likes, comments or engages with seductive content from other women may create emotional disturbance, disrupt and have her close off her heart from him.

12. When helping only when she asks: A man who lacks initiative and proactivity, who avoids his responsibilities by overloading her can create a heavy mental load on her. She doesn’t want to feel a housemaid who has to do everything by herself or that she has to proof herself in this way in order to receive his approval.

13. When being arrogant: A man who shows traits of superiority might make her feel hurt, unseen, and not appreciated especially when trying to make things work out and therefore it will eventually place more distance in her heart in order to feel safe from him.

14. When being passive aggressive: A man who doesn’t communicate his true feelings and chooses to withdraw emotionally by being passively aggressive and distant from her, this will cause her to get out from her feminine energy in order to figure it out on how she can solve the problem by being more active in the solution.

15. When not being honest: A man who is not being honest with his partner, will cause her to loose her trust towards him and therefore she will shut down, while being unable to fully surrender to him and be in her feminine energy.

16. When not meeting her needs: A man who is constantly showing that he is unable to care for or respond to his partner’s needs will make her feel that he doesn’t care enough for her or that he doesn’t want to any effort for her happiness, and this will take her out from her female energy because she will not feel safe enough, especially on the emotional level.

17. When not respecting her story: A man who knows her story, her past and therefore her wounds and traumas but still triggering her or pointing out her weaknesses it will cause her to shut down and especially towards him.

18. When ghosting her: A man who suddenly disappears and cuts off all means of communication with her becomes unreliable in front of her eyes, while wounding her trust and making her increase her defensiveness.

19. When gaslighting her: A man who uses gaslighting techniques creates confusion in her, which might make her disconnect from him and her need to fully surrender through her female energy in the relationship.

20. When abusing her: A man who has an abusive behavior will definitely create fear, mistrust, hurt and many more negative emotions in her that will make her start distancing herself and her heart from him in order to feel safe again.

These 20 behaviors, if consistent, will definitely wound the feminine energy by hurting it, shutting it off and disrupting it. The feminine energy in order to be fully expresses needs to feel safe first. Love, care, tenderness, acceptance, affection can help the feminine energy to flourish. Neglect, shame, abuse, inconsistency and disrespect will cause the feminine energy to shut off or become more masculine in order to balance the dynamic, only to feel depleted and imbalanced after a while. This in its turn will cause a disruption in the relationship as the feminine energy will be pushed out of her true essence.

I hope that this article can help any individual who is in a relationship to understand the dynamics between the masculine and feminine energy, specifically from the lens of a toxic masculine that can cause suppression and disruption to the feminine energy. In case you identify some or a few of this traits or behaviors in your relationship you can choose to communicate that to your partner and receive help from a therapist in order to heal from that, make adjustments in the relationship or even set free from it if this is hat you want. You can always choose to allow your feminine energy to fully shine and express itself in all means and create healthy dynamics and relationships that nourish you instead of depleting you, throughout your life.

I love you.

And remember,

Everything you seek, lies within your Self.

Heart to Heart,

Christina

© Christina Georgiou