15 Steps to experience peace in everyday life

Peace is state of being and is one of the highest vibrational frequencies that a human being may feel, embody and experience. For the most of the people is it extremely rare and difficult to experience and sustain peace, as people face more and more stress, anxiety and turbulence in their everyday life.

Meditation is a great tool to create peace within, but it shouldn't be the only one. We need to find the ways that the effect of meditation can actually be experienced and embodied in our interactions and everyday life without the need to go back to isolation in order to find that peace again.

Observing life events and how we respond to them physically, emotionally and mentally is important in order to understand all those factors that keep us away from experiencing peace. On the other hand observing all those aspects in life that reinforce or allow peace to be part of our experience is also important in order to choose the elements that create and sustain peace as an internal and as an external reality.

In this article I will share with you 14 steps that will help you experience more peace in your life, relationships, work and family environment, while having a better understanding of what happens when these steps are ignored. Let's begin.

1. Witness with curiosity instead of judgement: When we witness something with curiosity we become more present, available and even more open to interpretation, but when we judge instead we contract ourselves from receiving the whole truth about something. Witnessing life with curiosity we become like children where they are open to joy and wonder and therefore to a more peaceful state of being.

2. Feel more and assume less: When we try to reason any kind and form of physical sensation in the body, we prevent ourselves from truly feeling sensations in the body. If we allow ourselves to feel fully, no matter how uncomfortable or challenging this may be, we will be able to experience a different reality and therefore create a different perception regarding our experience. Feeling in a deeper level prevents us from creating resistance and assumptions that may cause pain in our daily experience and instead it will help us move through all kinds of emotions and finally reach a state of calmness and peace.

3. Always repair after conflict: When we have a conflict with another person and especially someone we are in a relationship with, is essential that we come back together and repair the relationship. Repairing includes being open, validating the other person's emotions, apologizing and finally reconnecting emotionally and even physically. That can be a hug or a touch or even holding hands, and it will assist in co-regulating, which will bring closure to the incident. Leaving an incident of conflict open and unresolved this will create resentment and distance between the two and this will bring more conflict and most possible decay of the relationship. Repairing all the times that is necessary you protect the connection and the feeling of safety in the relationship and therefore you establish peace.

4. Have and communicate clearly your boundaries: Firstly knowing your boundaries and communicating them clearly to the people around you that you interact with or share a life with is essential, primarily because without boundaries there is no such thing as healthy relationship. And without healthy relationships there is no peace in one's everyday life. When boundaries are established then harmony and balance are possible and therefore peace can take place.

5. Give time and space to your emotions before responding: When we are overwhelmed with an emotion and we choose to react while experiencing that emotion, most probably we will go into a bigger wave of emotional turbulence. Emotions need to be felt first before expressing anything about them. When the emotional storm passes we are more ready to respond or discuss and therefore avoid reacting impulsively. This will restore calmness and therefore peace where emotional reactivity will always to the opposite.

6. Think of what you have gained instead of what you have lost: In relationships, situations, experiences, and life itself we receive knowledge, experiences, valuable lessons and so much more, regardless of how positive or negative our impression about these experiences might be. We need to learn to acknowledge the value of a negative experience no matter how negative it might have been. In this way not only we will have more peace in life, but we will also be able to be in peace with everything that has hurt us in the past.

7. Loosing in some battles doesn't mean you have lost the whole war: Knowing that it is not possible to always win is a big step towards creating more peace in your everyday life. For example, if your child resist to listen to you and you stay rigid in your decision, it might make you feel that you have won this battle but you will most probably loose the war when your child chooses to rebel against you. But if you show to your child that you expect them to do something specific and you give time for the child to respond, while lovingly guiding them, as soon as the child feels ready they will respond positively. This will happen again and again and at some point you will feel that you have won the whole war because you were not afraid to loose some of the battles.

8. Learn to breath deeply: Breathing deeply is a beautiful way to create a peaceful atmosphere inside and outside of yourself. Focusing on a deep rhythmic breath will immediately calm your nervous system down. Your nervous system is an essential part for experiencing peace in your everyday life and breathing deeply is the simplest way to calm your nervous system down and therefore be at peace again.

9. Be present: Being present means to bring yourself constantly in the here and now. Becoming more present for yourself and others means to slow down and therefore be more available and able to respond immediately to your own needs and the needs of your loved ones. All the above will create and sustain a peaceful state inside-out.

10. Choose to contain and be contained by calmness: Calmness appears in the mind, where a calm state of mind is a mind that doesn't worry about the future and is not concerned about the past. It also appears in our surroundings, in other people, in nature and in animals. We can choose the best sources to surround us with the calmness we need and we can consciously choose to create the calmness within us. This internal and external calmness can be a supporter for deeper peace in life.

11. Surround yourself with people who make you feel safe, love you and accept you as you are: These are three extremely important elements that you should search in the people you choose to have in your life. You need to feel safe in order to heal, you need to feel loved in order to grow and you need to feel accepted in order to be authentic. All the above are essential in order to experience peace faster, deeper and with more ease.

12. Practice self-care regularly: Self-care is one of the best gifts we can give to ourselves. It is essential for our happiness, well-being and internal and external balance. Self-care brings more contentment, more awareness, more connection with ourselves and more consciousness regarding the states we are in and how we navigate through those stages, whether it involves the physical or mental or emotional domain. Self-care is a way to show up to yourself and provide to yourself what they need. And peace within cannot exist without applying self-care in a regular basis.

13. Fill up your emotional bucket on a daily basis: Our emotional bucket needs to be filled every single day with good times, hugs, connecting with loved ones, going out, having new and meaningful experiences, explore our talents, meet new people, socialize, play, and anything else that you know that it fills up your emotional bucket. When we do not feel our emotional bucket for a long time, feelings of emptiness and even depression might occur. Peacefulness comes when we feel full instead of empty. We cannot experience peace within if we feel that we lack of something.

14. Spend enough time in Nature: Nature is one of the biggest blessings in life. In the presence of Nature we can feel whole again, we can heal, we can charge and rejuvenate ourselves, we can balance and harmonize. Also in nature we can feel grounded and safe, two very important and essential elements that create a peaceful mind and body, and therefore the experience of peace.

15. Know when and where is the right time to speak and take action: Mastering your ability to respond at the right time and at the right place are essential in order to live a peaceful life inside-out. This will save you time, space and energy and it will bring more balance in your everyday life as you learn to fine-tune into the necessities or the forbidden areas in interactions, environments and situations. Mastering this skill will definitely bring true peace in mind and heart and it will save you from many disturbances that you can avoid.

I hope that all the above steps can assist you in your quest for peace in all areas of your life. Please remember that you are capable to create your own list and allow yourselves to experiment enough in order to understand what works for you and what not. Feel free to choose the way that things work best for you so you can have the best results. And change things around when they become outdated.

I love you.

And remember,

Everything you seek, lies within your Self.

Heart to Heart,

Christina

© Christina Georgiou